Let's Be Honest

Let's be honest, when I first got back from Haiti this past April, I was a mess. I often found myself in social situations unable to speak or engage in conversations. My mind blank. Some days I was having trouble getting myself out of bed. What's the point? I often asked myself before I forced my feet out of the covers and onto the floor.

And the hardest thing about it was I didn't understand why. Sure there was that thing about living through an earthquake in Haiti. But being that broad wasn't helpful. The whole world seemed to be grieving the earthquake, yet still I felt so alone in my emotional funk. What was going on?

One of the first times I realized my problem was during my first week at home. I went to visit my sister and brother-in-law in Detroit. And after a should-have-been-fun day at the museum looking at mummies, I was withdrawn, speechless. When people die, their bodies rot or turn into grotesque paper machet-like human pinatas, otherwise known as mummies. That is our physical fate, if we are lucky.

These thoughts passed through my mind as I looked out the windows of the car at the abandonned buildings on nearly every street corner. It's here too. Haiti, the United States, the world is filled with poverty, pain, and brokennes.

After a few days in Detroit, I headed to my parents' house only to discover friends having huge family problems. And a few weeks later, a 26 year-old friend of mine was hospitalized and died after a 4 year battle with Lukemia. He was my fourth friend under the age of 30 to die in a period of 4 months.

God what is going on? The world is horrible. Numbness and depression were starting to turn into frustration and anger. I thought God was good? Why is life so bad? I wanted to throw God out. Be ticked and forget about the faith all together.

But something in me couldn't. Even in the midst of feeling confused and hurt, something in me knew that leaving the faith and calling God a jerk would be a denial of Truth. I still don't know how to describe it, but it was like in the midst of HUGE tragedies, I still saw God's goodness in tiny intimacies.

For example, I thought about how after the earthquake I was running into people who'd lost 3, 7, or 9 family members and were themselves suffering from post-traumatic stress. I saw 5 new kids show up at the local orphanage after losing family members. And yet in the middle of that I saw God make sure I got fresh green beans: a visiting team unknowingly going to the Dominican Republic and buying fresh produce that would satisfy my exact craving the very day I voiced it to the missionaries.

Or how on January 14th, just 2 days after the earthquake, I got word that I would be able to attend a women's conference in Colorado that I'd been wanting to go to for 5 years. And the same week of my birthday, the only birthday I've ever passed without receiving any cards from family or friends (mail was impossible in Haiti at the time), I found out I'd recieved a scholarship to the conference and would pay only $25 instead of the impossible price of $375.

And just in case I was going to miss these connections, at the women's conference in April one of the speakers said, "Jesus name is like a kiss on an earthquake." His intimate love and tenderness toward me were undeniable. So I found myself trying to reconcile two seemingly exclusive realities: God is an intimate and omnipotent lover and friend, and God sometimes allows terrible pain and tragedy on earth.

How is this? A friend of mine, when listening to my grief said, "You know Justine, I just have to believe God's love is bigger than that. It's bigger than the death of my husband and bigger than an earthquake." This idea is all through the bible. I've been reading lately in Romans 8:35-39 how NOTHING can separate us from God's love. And to be really honest, I still don't get why horrible stuff happens. But somehow I am beginning to believe that God really is good even in the middle of every human tragedy.